The "goal" of this site is raising consciousness

(From Steve Pavlina, i liked it so much i had to post it)

What are the actual benefits of becoming more conscious? Why would anyone care to do this? And what the heck does it even mean to raise your consciousness anyway?

While raising your consciousness can certainly enhance your spiritual development, this isn’t really a spiritual issue at its core. It’s really about hardcore mental development.

What does it mean to become more conscious? I define it as the progressive realization of conscious mastery over your mind. This includes all of the following:

• making careful, intelligent, and deliberate decisions
• maintaining a positive emotional state regardless of circumstances
• developing empowering beliefs while purging disempowering ones
• understanding your own thought processes, emotions, and behaviors
• staying focused on what’s most important while tuning out distractions
• building an accurate and effective model of reality

All of these are skills that we develop across a wide spectrum. Traditional education teaches us basic skills and basic knowledge, but it does little to show us how to develop our conscious minds. We aren’t taught how to intelligently make the biggest decisions of our lives, how to cultivate a burning desire for what we want, how to know if our beliefs are inaccurate and need to be changed, how to concentrate, etc. But over the course of your lifetime, these skills will prove far more significant than anything you learned in school.

People whose conscious minds remain underdeveloped often suffer from cluttered and unfocused thinking. Needless worries, trivial distractions, inaccurate observations, false beliefs, and negative emotions run rampant through their thoughts, and most of the time they aren’t even aware of it. It’s like being stuck in a mental fog. When you talk to such people, you can sense they aren’t fully there. The lights are on, but no one’s home. Ask them an important question like, “What overall purpose have you chosen for your life?” and you’ll likely get a blank stare in response. Because they don’t really have control of their minds, they live reactively instead of proactively. Such people are virtually powerless. They essentially do what they’re told and try to stay out of trouble, mistakenly assuming this condition is the best they can expect of themselves.

In contrast highly conscious people own their minds. Their thinking is clear and focused, and they select and direct their thoughts deliberately. They retain conscious control over their emotions, and they don’t easily succumb to distractions. When you talk to such people, you can detect depth and clarity. Ask them, “What’s the purpose of your life?” and you’ll likely get an intelligent and thoughtful response. These people live proactively and are emotionally resilient, rising above their circumstances instead of being victimized by them. They possess an inner strength that is undeniable. They exhibit both courage and compassion, and they know that this level of being is how humans were truly meant to live.

The difference between these two groups is that the first group has settled for the default mental operating system installed by their upbringing and social conditioning. Call it Human OS 1.0. They accepted whatever programming they initially received. The second group, however, challenges themselves to continuously improve upon that initial programming, embarking on a lifelong quest to design a more intelligent mental operating system. And they succeed. So while group one is stuck with a shabby and outdated mental OS, group two continues to upgrade its version, enjoying compounding benefits year after year. It doesn’t matter whether they’re currently using Human OS 1.1 or Human OS 7.0 — it’s the process of frequent upgrading that matters most, not the particular version number being used.

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Women do sex for love, men for masturbation

That is so incredibly wrong.

I just watched my first episode of sex and the city, where the protagonist tells she wants to try to have sex like men, without any emotional connection.
And all women wonder why men can do this and they want to feel so special. The truth is no woman is really special to a man, if i would say otherwise, it would be lying.
The attraction mechanism just moves from the body (men) to certain personality qualities (women). But it's the same biological feeling.
So women: this is neediness, not love!
They all think it is love because it is of personality and not of the body. You are your body and your personality, it just seems like a "higher" choice. But Mystery figured it out, these are just traits to improve survival value and thus must be attractive to maintain evolution. If you don't know them, they are besides a lot of others: pre-selection, leadership, protector of loved ones, willingness to emote, etc.

And it is also the same thing with cheating: Quite all women will cheat if their husbands have no integrity, are needy etc (lacking real masculine traits), unless they are overly moralistic. But if they have these traits, women don't need other men! That's the difference, because men will always have the desire for fucking other women. no matter how hot their wife is. It's another thing to bend to this desire of course.

But here's my point:
After the sex, the attachment and neediness of the man has vanished, he has accomplished what he wished for (in former times it was planting the seed). His object of desire was the body and after fullfilment, desire disappears. For women feelings will even INTENSIY because they become attached to the person which seems far more unique than being attached to a body. That's their neediness and it will stay until the relationship breaks apart or the man loses his masculinity.
So neediness is just distributed differently in the first instance.

We have to differentiate between the biological pull and appreciation, appreciation is a step further towards self-actualisation. When I understand it I will post it.

Exams time

Oh shit. I have loads of work to do. I hope I will make it through the exams; this time it it could be too much to handle, and it will continue for the next 6 weeks, so posting new things will become rare. But let's see if I can provide you with some new information at this time. Right now I begin to get a glimpse of the matrix of life. Yeah, thats the right expression, you become so aware that you begin to see the variables that are used. And through researching I know where to find stuff that rocks, it's only a matter of time to be able to cut through all this information, time that quite noone has. Really, the growth of the seduction community brings a lot of nice benefits. More and more people pull together on the same string and new methods, new approaches and a deeper understanding arise and add a lot of value to all of us. Now it becomes impossible to learn all of it, it is too much. There are many cool things out there and with understanding and a lot of practice you can literally attain superpowers. For example with microcalibration you can get aware of the micro value shifts going on in every social dynamic. Cold reading specializes in hot women. Inner game issues evolve to the core identity or even beyond. AMOGing techniques. Another example is giving women orgasms in seconds and so on. It becomes a quest for understanding life and one of the best methods to understand life is to understand women, because the relationship with your woman reflect your relationship with the world.

I hope I can come back to business as soon as possible and provide you some new hot shit.

Why picking up women?

Hehe, yeah, that's it, that is what happened in today's society. There are women who have more power than some politicians and they are not even mature enough to handle it. Anyway, most men compromise waaaay too much to get one bite of the big cake of beautiful pussy. And especially those who say "oh personality is very important to me" will start humping and compromising their integrity for the sake of pussy just around the corner.

Why is that?

First of all, of course you know it, the desire is great, you're probably one of the guys who never fucked a ten. You just want it like you want a new porsche or the next promotion. It's neediness and its natural.
So, now, of course pick up artists know the trick: don't show it this creates attraction and fuck the ten.
But here comes the deeper cause of neediness: It is not only that through it women know that you are preselectet, a real man of integrity is not distracted by looks he acts according to his own values and alignes with his mission in life. That is why badboys are so attractive, not because they treat women bad, but because they care a little less about what others say and have more integrity. It's not the part of being rough and insincere, but of a very masculine, yang way of living. And that is so attractive, because no one has it; everyone kisses ass, is dishonest to stay in the safe area of life. What is the worth of your yes if you can't say no?

Women are not really happy with this situation. You can see it: Woman yell at theirs husbands and complain and whine. How fucked up are you that you tolerate this?... Because you are a wussy.
We are equal but on both sides of the equation there are different factors and numbers.
The feminine energy (this applies to feminine woman the most) is nurturing, supplying, flexible, changing, it needs some deep rooted driven counterpart.

Ah yeah and if you choose a woman for social status or her beauty you will soon see that it is like with everything you can possess: some time after you bought something, your desire from the beginning diminishes and a void is created. Just open your eyes so many people are in a circle from relationship to relationship, when their so called love disappears they don't spend a thought on "why", they just slide into the next relationship and make the same mistake all over again.
We go on turning persons into dead things, and then we get fustrated because we cannot be fullfilled by dead things.
Mind is paradoxical: everything you have, you will get bored with and much that you don't have you desire.

So please choose your woman, because you feel a deep sense of familiarity, she makes you feel more alive or she gives you a warm feeling in your chest. Let synchronicity work.
This is so much wiser because it comes from your heart, your feeling and not from your head, your reasoning. Your personalities will match far better in the end, so that you need less or hopefully nothing of this dishonest mindcontrol stuff.

Who is higher status?

You know, there are all these methods of raising one's social value via storytelling, negs, pre-selection, leadership etc. And the most effective one without any efforts is just to keep a belief in your head "I have much value", just repeat it in your head and your body language and self-esteem changes. Then with micro eye contact game you can break a 10's bitchshield and create immediate attraction.

I always felt very uncomfortable with this frame and I don't liked it to be "better" than someone. And I also noticed that it creates a distance between people especially if you know someone for a long time. The reason for this is just because it is pure arrogance; it is a game you play with already very arrogant people and you even beat them.
You can see the consequences when you look at some of those pickup artists on Studivz or on the street they look cold, their soul seems dark and on their heads it is firmly printed:"I am better than thou". That's what they call their virtue.

For you guys who have more heart and who want to attract girls into their lives that live not in the consciousness of accumulating money and keeping a boyfriend to impress their friends I suggest the following: Fuck it, we are all equal, whether you speak with a beggar or a roman emperor. We all feel the same emotions and everybody deserves respect. You can't measure the value of a person in education hours or anything else.
This is a spiritual frame, an ultimate frame, how could it really be different?
And it is beautiful, because you can't be fucked up by a hot chick, you won't feel ashamed or anything, only to be equal is enough to earn somebodys respect. Look at Hollywood stars with personality, they still look ordinary people in the eyes, acknowledge them and give them respect. That takes courage. Being equal takes courage .

Gathering thoughts

So hello everyone! Just recently I decided to create a blog to gather, recontemplate and manifest my thoughts and learnings about spirituality, dating, personal development and all stuff that interests me. These are very complex topics and with this blog I wanted to speed up the learning process. It is meant to illustrate a personal journey. Moreover it's an opportunity to practice the English language and get familiar with writing and communication skills. So right know I'm into stuff from Osho and Stephane and all I wanna do is to take up and structure some striking ideas and concepts that help you enrich your life. Since working with this stuff I realized that there's so much bullshit taking place everywhere. People are held back from choosing the life they want to life just because they have wrong beliefs or the consciousness to realize and undestand things is missing. It's sad because there are so many opportunities to change life for the better, or yes to discover what life is all about.

I welcome any praise, disagreements, criticism and guidance …Welcome