Examination Time II

I'll take a break for about 2 months for my intermediate examinations and some holidays.

Maybe I'll drop one or two posts in awhile ;)

Key Dating Mistakes

1. Failure to escalate. Listen - if you treat her like a friend, that's all you'll get. You have to start TOUCHING women when you speak to them. You know, take her hand and hold it a little too long, hold eye contact a little too long, run your fingers on her forearm, offer hugs, take her wrist and lead her to sit down, and so on. If you do not do this stuff, you'll typically get rejected. She knows you WANT to, so do it. If she resists, just use all the 'gentleman's game' stuff and wash, rinse, repeat. Ask yourself, "Is it wrong or offensive to be intimate with women?"

2. Failure to stay in the Heart. So you get horny (root chakra) and then you go in the mind and start trying to GET sex & love. You start going, "What should I say? How should I carry myself?" and you are concerned with manipulation and mental chess games, in an empty pursuit of approval and status. The trick is to let that go and Just Love Women. Be in SILENCE when you approach, do not THINK, just BE. The words and GAME will come to you ONLY through your heart. You must be willing to make yourself THAT vulnerable.

3. In a casual conversation, many of you are basically reciting the entire GTP, in an effort to show her how great you are. And what a 'catch' you are. Yet you're not ESCALATING, soooo she knows you're full of sh*t. So you talk about massage, squirting, chakras, and GTP theories such as "one day at a time" and "opening the heart" and meditation and "taking no crap" and everything you're getting from IG. But, IG stuff is meant to be LIVED, not talked about... collecting all of these beliefs to show women how 'knowing' you are, NO.

4. Instead of rambling, talk MUCH less about YOU, and focus on HER. Spend most of your time getting to know her on every level. What are her dreams, desires, fears, wants, hatreds, opinions... Be extremely curious about HER. And let her find out how "knowing" you are OVER TIME, slowly. Let her be pleasantly surprised as the relationship unfolds. Let her find out that you saved a drowning kitten and you can make women squirt LATER.

(from the ideagasm forums, for incredible advice visit www.ideagasms.net)

Morality is a disease

Morality is given to you by others, your parents, your friends, your culture, your religion etc. It's origin is deeply egoistical and it starts when awareness or understanding is missing. A man of understanding will need no rules, because he knows that everything imposed on him will make him plastic and deprive him of his authenticity. How can you say to a child:"don't be childish". It cannot be not childdish, that's impossible for him, he cannot be what he is not. So the child will learn how to act, because it will be very difficult for him to resist his parents. In this way the child becomes unreal.
So a man who want's to be good is at the same degree evil, his intention can only be:"I am holier than you".
Morality has the reason in itself, which is a very airy-fairy way indeed. Man has never known what is "good" or "bad", these names are always a good way to start wars. If you free yourself from conditioning you will just know what's right and wha'ts wrong. Then you love yourself and love is the only truth.

Chakra Two: Water

This chakra goes beyond survival and takes the first step to self-actualisation. It's all about emotions, sexuality, relationships and abundance. An important key principle here is the pleasure principle. It teaches us that we humans feel drawn towards things/activities that please us, which is an indication for a safe situation :"Every perfect action is accomponied by pleasure. By that you can tell that you ought to do it." You can say that it is the next step to connect with your body and feelings in order to go to the next level of fullfilment. Wheareas a way to get stuck in this chakra is by overindulging in it. I'm sure that you noticed that experiencing pleasure is not why we are here for, although an imporant step to build self-esteem and to go beyond this chakra. Pleasure cannot be fullfilling as a whole, because it is unreal. All activities that seem to bring you your happiness, are used to distract you from your original sadness. So when you really want to experience JOY, try to meditate on your sadness when you are alone. Of course the oppsite is avoiding pleasure at all, and even in the western society there are still many people who do not have the ability to get some pleasure rolling. Pleasures and emotions are the roots of desire which leads to movement and change and conscioussness thrives on change.
I'll give you some examples for sexuality and relationships:
Fucking around like a rooster, will keep you trapped in your sexuality and makes you feel bad over all. The same with repression: Denying your feelings is denying your body mind and soul also which means denying god.
For relationships it could mean that when your front is closed you will have trouble approaching girls, because you will probably think that you are not enough and the feeling could be too strong for your will to overcome. Closed in the back could make problems with closing the deal.

The three major obstacles for modern man to overcome here are to realize that you:
1. are enough
2. have to let go of what is not needed and welcome change
3. are abundant

Anodea Judith, Wheels of Life: A User's Guide to the Chakra System

Where the seduction community goes wrong

Just saw a Dr. Phil movie clip where some pua explains what he's doing and there were just girls in the audience bashing him. You know, I myself always thought there was something wrong with the whole approach the seduciton community has. But I didn't really understand it until now, and still only very few understand it.
The girls in the audience and girls in general blame pua's because they would just "use" them as objects and are not interested in them as a person. Pua's on the other hand think that they just want to give women a good time and as long as you are open about your intentions everything is all right with trying to be your best self and capitalize on that.
Both approaches somehow seem right, and they are but on different levels. Women are right for the wrong reasons and men are wong for the right reasons, I will explain:
What is manipulation? It is influencing a PERSON with specific INTENTIONS to get certain results. So here you have to distinguish between outer and inner game. All inner game training (inner game on the level of behavior, secondary level) is a choice and you can make what you want out of you, it is not on the level of the soul so it does not fuck you up too much if it is somehow aligned with integrity. Outer game though, can only have the intention to manipulate the other person for your means. Your soul is no longer in what you do, you sold yourself to the devil so to speak ;). To kill your aliveness is not worth a single fuck, because being alive is all we are or have. To be honest it is not so worse for the girl, because you're giving her a good time, you will appear like a small hero. She may just be dissapointed afterwards, when she sees the real you. But most of the harm will be for the pua. There was a reason mystery ended in the nuthouse.
But here's where the women go wrong: Everybody is manipulating, kissing ass etc 95% of the people are manipulators they are just not doing it CONSCIOUSLY and do not practice their manipulation skills, that is the ONLY difference and that does not make a fundamental difference. If you buy flowers for a girl it will probaly be a very rude manipulation the way most people are doing it (a flower guy would just pull out the magic pill right ahead if he had one). And even if you feel lonely and want to be intimate again you are just filling a whole which makes the other person into a thing. There's no difference, it just seems more moral.
Furthermore: The community is approval seeking in nature (so many other people are anyway). Many people try to fill an empty void inside by stroking their egos how socially accepted and successful they are. They are trying to build a fundament on fluffy sand so to speak.