Key Dating Mistakes

1. Failure to escalate. Listen - if you treat her like a friend, that's all you'll get. You have to start TOUCHING women when you speak to them. You know, take her hand and hold it a little too long, hold eye contact a little too long, run your fingers on her forearm, offer hugs, take her wrist and lead her to sit down, and so on. If you do not do this stuff, you'll typically get rejected. She knows you WANT to, so do it. If she resists, just use all the 'gentleman's game' stuff and wash, rinse, repeat. Ask yourself, "Is it wrong or offensive to be intimate with women?"

2. Failure to stay in the Heart. So you get horny (root chakra) and then you go in the mind and start trying to GET sex & love. You start going, "What should I say? How should I carry myself?" and you are concerned with manipulation and mental chess games, in an empty pursuit of approval and status. The trick is to let that go and Just Love Women. Be in SILENCE when you approach, do not THINK, just BE. The words and GAME will come to you ONLY through your heart. You must be willing to make yourself THAT vulnerable.

3. In a casual conversation, many of you are basically reciting the entire GTP, in an effort to show her how great you are. And what a 'catch' you are. Yet you're not ESCALATING, soooo she knows you're full of sh*t. So you talk about massage, squirting, chakras, and GTP theories such as "one day at a time" and "opening the heart" and meditation and "taking no crap" and everything you're getting from IG. But, IG stuff is meant to be LIVED, not talked about... collecting all of these beliefs to show women how 'knowing' you are, NO.

4. Instead of rambling, talk MUCH less about YOU, and focus on HER. Spend most of your time getting to know her on every level. What are her dreams, desires, fears, wants, hatreds, opinions... Be extremely curious about HER. And let her find out how "knowing" you are OVER TIME, slowly. Let her be pleasantly surprised as the relationship unfolds. Let her find out that you saved a drowning kitten and you can make women squirt LATER.

(from the ideagasm forums, for incredible advice visit www.ideagasms.net)