Chakra Three: Fire

This chakra deals with the obstacles and opportunieties of power, will and self-esteem. Let's say you really tackled chakra one and two and you do not struggle anymore with money issues or living at the minimum. And you are also able to know how to meet your needs and how to enjoy life fully with a rich perspective. The next step for most individuals is to ask for something greater, to take full responsibility for theit own life and to make the things happen which they desire. Taking full responsibility is a HUGE step, because it also means taking an honest look at yourself and to bear that some of your past decisions and actions led to unpleasant circumstances: like a smoking habit, a fat body, being a jerk or loser around women or just to be a boring lazy douchebag.
Everybody has different resources to access from, and I don't blame anyone who studies like speedy gonzales and is not able to pull off his examinations. But everyone creates his own reality, and is able to be HIS best self. Believe me, it's often the lack of inner game that seperates the doers from the dreamers and not the IQ (for most of us).
I think the connections are very obvious, but the ability to be powerful is measured by your ability to exercise your will and your sense of power is directly linked to your level of self-worth. It's most likely that people who can easily meet their needs and are easily able to accomplish goals have high self-esteem. Most people's self-worth is dependant on others and few people are good and get praised and only these people become proud. From then on it is easier to give a shit on other people's opinions and move on into the heart, the 4th chakra.
But let's have a closer look at will, power and self-esteem.


1. Your Will
You need your will to make effective changes in the world, make choices and to overcome inertia of the lower chakras. It is the gateway from mind to action, it helps you to create your own future and I would say that it is WHAT MAKES YOU ALIVE.
Everybody who is good with women is also very good at exercising his will. This is what gives you that SPARK in your eyes, what is sooo attractive (this is what makes charismatic people).
To help you get a handle on this chakra the disctinction between will and true will is very useful:
If you do what someone else tells you to do, when you really would rather not, you are still exercising your will, but deep inside it's not your true will. To get it back we must realize we have chosen to do this and examine the reason for that choice. It's a bit tough to figure this out, because there seem to be many layers of your will, but if you play with it and try to do what you love and contemplate about why you do what you do, these layers will eventually unravel.
I don't how how this is to be explained whether you have a biological, psychological or spiritual approach, but I think no matter what the usefulness of this distinction is evident. You will start to feel your purpose when you feel a coherency of flow in your path. It is the part of our intelligence to perceive that path and a task of the will to follow that path.

Now I want you to give you some frames to improve your willpower:
Always examine your will
- are you trying to please?
- are you scared of the consequences?
- are you out of touch with yourself?
- is your will in address of looking good, being liked, keeping peace or avoiding responsibility?

Once we know what our will is serving we must then ask what it might be betraying
- is looking good betraying your honest needs?
- is keeping the peace perpetuating negative circumstances that might need to be confronted?
- is pleasing others lowering your self-esteem?

To make these effects conscious is to empower yourself to choose between them. True will requires a deep communication with the self, trust in yourself, a willingness to take risks and accept responsibilities for those risks which will strengthen your sense of self.

However there are some traps to get stuck in this chakra.
Your self-discilpine for example is important but works better as a want than a should: without agreement between will and desire, we lose our passion and momentum and thereby dissipate the power needed to carry out our will
It is very important to know why you exercise your will and what direction you choose. If you are in the wrong jungle no way is the right one. And by exercising your will you will soon discover that it is not all about personal development and productivity or other needs of the ego, but about discovering yourself, finding truths and fullfilment, the way of the heart.
How can we exert our will if we don't know what we want? - KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. While undue attachment to our desires may keep us trapped in lower chakras, suppression only blocks the force of the will. Try to exercise your will AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. Go from whims to far-reaching cause and effects to your larger purpose.
Also try to recognize when the will becomes detrimentally dominating and overly controlling and let go.



2. Self-esteem

When your self-esteem is high you are confident, pro-active, disciplined and excited about life. Many inner game issues come from a lack of self-esteem. Self-dout and recrimination lead to inertia and paralysis.
Basically there are three ways to improve your self-esteem:
1. do sports (first chara)
2.meet your needs (second chakra)
3.do much trial and error, which gives you a sense of your own abilities (third chakra)


3. Power

Our society basically teaches us that we are powerless, it reinforces conformity in order to control us. It makes us believe that power is somewhere outside of us, whereas the truth is that true power comes from within. Today we are faced with the challenge to change our fundamental believes about power. That the purpose of power is not to dominate and divide but to enhance, strengthen and empower. Real power must strengthen individuals and cultures simultaneously rather than exploiting the great majority of people. The strength of any group depends on its solidarity and its ability to combine and coordinate it's inner forces.
Without power from within we stagnate, lose our enthusiasm, our will and desires; we become machines and without our autonomy we lose the desire to innovate. Vicitms become dumb, turn to drugs and seek stimulation.
Because power comes from within we need to be conscious or aware and understand the relationship between things. True power stems from your reasoning ability.

The affirmations are:
"I choose to appreciate all my unique qualities"
"I choose to own my own strength"
"I choose to keep my power for myself"