Compassion Shortcut

1. Identify the Conflict
2. Roles
- How did I invite this into my life? What role did I play?
Empathy
1- See the events through my own eyes
2- See the events from the other person's eyes – Empathy

Try to imagine the background of that person. Try to imagine what that person was taught as a child. Try to imagine the day or week that person was going through, and what kind of bad things had happened to that person. Try to imagine the mood and state of mind that person was in — the suffering that person must have been going through to mistreat you that way. And understand that their action was not about you, but about what they were going through.

3- See the events from the outside observer perspective -> Objectivity
3. Practical Lessons
What are the practical lessons that I need to learn from this experience?
What will I do differently next time?
4. The World is Your Mirror
What aspects of myself are being reflected back to me? Be brutally honest.
Look at the chakras...
- Red: Did I take care of my body?
- Orange: Was I needy?
- Yellow: Did I put up with crap? Did I give away my power?
- Green: Did I accept myself fully and allow myself to feel loved?
- Blue: Did I speak my truth at all times?
- Indigo: Did I live in the NOW, or did I dwell on past or future events? Did I take response-ability?
5. Release Blame
This is easy when I realize that I am not a victim. I am an active participant in this, and I chose this experience in order to learn from it.
Don't just see the person - look at the SOUL. There is a Soul inside that body and it is here, just like I am, learning the tough lessons of love and life. IF I ever see this person again, will I be able to be KIND to them? Can I be kind to this person from a distance? Can I be kind to them in my mind? HOW will I be kind to them? WHEN will I be kind to them?
Pray: "God, I ask you to forgive the ego for the (anger, resentment, positionalities, addictions to drama, neediness, etc.) and I now ask for healing and your Divine Grace. I also ask that you Bless this 'other person' with your Presence. Thank You. Thy Will Be Done."

You should be feeling a surge of compassion and gratitude for the other person involved in the conflict/contract. You should now be viewing this experience as a GIFT. If not, then go back through the steps and start over. It may take a few times to get to the lessons you need. If you are not getting the lessons that you need, simply rake the feelings out of your body, Bubble the whole thing and trust the Universe to send you the appropriate people, situations and contexts that will help you increase your awareness.

This is a small résumé of the 5DC Compassion formula created by Stephane from ideagasms.

The 11 Most Effective Productivity Hacks

1. Get up early in the morning, like at 5am, and go straight to work on your most important task. You can often get more done before 8am than most people do in a day.

2. Apply an attitude of silence and tempo and work alone. A dead silent environment is a sure bet. Then always try to do your work a little faster, move out of your comfort zone. And do this by your own and not in groups. You should only specifically seek out questions, this won't slow down your accomplishments.

3. Limit tasks to the important to shorten work time. This is referred to as the 80/20 Principle or Pareto's law. It says that from 20% of your invested time flows 80% of the results. That's an insane ratio and often it is more. So make it a taks to find out where to apply it. In case of need do brainstorming.

4. Shorten work time to limit tasks to the important (Parkinson's law). Setting deadlines is a must, but don't bullshit yourself. You must set real deadlines that increase your speed at least 200%.

5. Always visualize what you will get out of changing a certain habit. Look at how your live is going be in 5-10 years from now when you stick to a goal or settle for comfort. Seeing the results directly will have a huge impact and boost motivation. There's no holding back when you can see that you can enjoy abundant relationships instead of spending hours for hours in front of the TV.

6. Separate the truly important tasks from the merely urgent. And always choose the important one.

7. Delegate as much tasks as possible. Give yourself rewards, like a massage, a new LCD Screen or whatever. And apply a 30 day trial for difficult goals.

8. Always work on your production capacity. Stephen Covey calls it the "sharpen your saw" habit. It's important that you also learn how to learn faster. You can try speed reading, photoreading, memorization stuff, speed typing and so on, depending on what you're doing.

9. Resolve all stupid or inefficient habits like checking the mail everyday, visiting the same blogs or websites again and again, taking a nap and the daily hour TV. And replace it wit heffective ones. Daily routine is key!

10. Keep the balance: Exercise at least 4 times a week and socialize at least 3 times a week if it's possible. This keeps your mind fresh and is no rocket sience.

11. Do it now! Recite this phrase over and over until you’re so sick of it that you cave in and get to work.

Lessons in Pride- Pride (LoC 175) vs Humility (LoC >500)

Pride is self-centered; Humility carries the concerns of others
Pride isolates itself from others; Humility sees the need of others
Pride enjoys independence and likes to function alone; Humility enjoys teamwork
Pride encourages separatism; Humility unifies
Pride is cold, aloof & withdrawn; Humility is warm, outgoing and responsive
Pride is sophisticated; Humility is childlike
Pride is complex; Humility is simple
Pride is impatient; Humility is longsuffering
Pride is critical of others; Humility encourages others
Pride is resentful; Humility forgives and forgets
Pride seeks to impress others; Humility is to be known for what we really are
Prided is deceitful; Humility is transparently honest
Pride revels in the adulation of man; Humility automatically gives God the Glory
Pride fears men and their reactions; Humility fears God and cares only for His reaction
Pride makes excuses; Humility communicates the whole truth
Pride justifies; Humility quickly acknowledges failure
Pride covers sin; Humility confesses, repents and makes restitution
Pride envies another's promotion/advantages; Humility rejoices and gives honor
Pride is more excited about sharing knowledge; Humility is more excited about learning
Pride is self-absorbed; Humility is sensitive to others
Pride argues with God; Humility submits and accepts His will
Pride insists on proving that we are right; Humility relinquishes that right
Pride rebels against authority; Humility submits
Pride resists correction; Humility is grateful for it
Pride is cynical; Humility believes and trusts
Pride thinks "What they need to learn from me."; Humility thinks, "What can I learn from them?"
Pride seeks the recognition of others; Humility is content with obscurity

Wow, this list opened a door ... I'm still a very proud bastard ;-)

Strong vs Weak Energy Patterns and The Map of Conscioussness

Human behaviour always puzzled me. Especially when it came to terms with "right" and "wrong"and which path to go in life and why. All kinds of people do different things some because it gives them pleasure, some because they want to make money, survive, live comfortably become famous or to better support their children and some are just lazy. And then there were some few who could live what they love and again some very few who were not motivated by all of this stuff. It always seemed to come down to the context of a situation / interaction, but then there were "different contexts on the same level" and you again did not know what to think about it. But reading the book Power vs Force from David Hawkins it suddenly dawned on me that it's all about finding the next bigger context which then gives the opportunity to evaluate with the understanding of the whole. Meaning precedes motivation which in turn comes from context. Enhancing contexts, that is higher truth, then brings you more and more away from the illusion of reality until you reach enlightenment. When you don't learn about the nature of love and that you're not your ego, to progress or to think that this stuff I'm talking about could be true is very hard. Many of the smart human beings today are still stuck at the 400's with reason as their major operating tool.
If you really want to get a handle of the level of conscioussness I would advise you to read the whole Hawkins Book series, because there's a lot of stuff which has to be understood. I'll probably post some more stuff when I have some realizations, or find some striking points, but otherwise this would be just too much.
But for those of you who are interested here's the map:


But now I want to share with you a list from the book Power vs Force which makes a major distinction between strong and weak energy patterns. Depending on who you think you are, your life view and so on, you delevop a certain Motivation which controls your thinking, attitudes, behavior, habits and character and vice versa. You can say that these energy patterns are greater than you, like natural forces who are manipulated only very indirectly by you; at least they are not obivous for the average human being. The ability to differentiate between high and low energy patterns is a matter of perception and discrimination that most of u learn by painful trial and error. Failure, suffering and eventual sickness reult from the influence of weak patterns. Success, happiness, and health proceed from powerful attractor patterns.
Weak energy patterns calibrate lower than 200 (This is the level of integrity where real power first appears) which basically means that they are destructive to life and overly egoistic or narcissistic. People who are in this range are generally unable to be honest, because shame, guilt, apathy, fear, desires, anger and pride are too dominant for their low self-esteem to overcome. But that's just one thing, they may be unpleasant to be around in many other ways; they take more energy from society than they reciprocate. But because there are many states of consciousness in a single human being, this list can be very helpful for you to determine in which area of life you are working against nature.

Reflection on the many contrasting pairs of qualities can initiate a consciousness-raising process, so that one gradually becomes aware of patterns operating in relationships, business affairs, and all various interactions that make up the fabric of life.

Note: But be careful, the words represent their true meaning. Patriotic for example calibrates high, because it is an act of love. But it's not comparable with the american "patriotism" which is indeed nationalistic and thus fundamentalistic. The dots divide first the strong and then the weak patterns.

Abundant .... Excessive, Accepting .... Rejecting, Admitting .... Denying, Aesthetic .... Artsy, Agreeable .... Condescending, Allowing .... Controlling, Appreciative .... Envious, Approving .... Critical, Attractive .... Seductive, Authoritative.... Dogmatic, Aware.... Preoccupied, Beautiful .... Glamorous, Being.... Having, Believing .... Insisting, Brilliant .... Clever, Candid .... Calculating, Carefree .... Frivolous, Challenged .... Impeded, Charitable .... Prodigal, Cheerful .... Manic, Cherishing .... Prizing, Choosing-to .... Having to, Civil .... Formal, Concerned .... Judgemental, Concilliatory .... Infelxible, Confident .... Arrogant, Confronting .... Harassing, Conscious .... Unaware, Considerate .... Indulgent, Constructive .... Destructive, Contending .... Competing, Courageous .... Reckless, Defending .... Attacking, Democratic .... Dictorial, Detached .... Removed, Determined .... Stubborn, Devoted .... Posessive, Diplomatic .... Deceptive,Doing .... Getting, Educating .... Persuading, Egalitarian .... Elitist, Empathetic .... Pitying, Encouraging .... Promoting, Energetic .... Agitated, Enlivening .... Exhausting, Envisioning .... Picturing, Equal .... Superior, Erotic .... Lustful, Esential .... Apparent, Eternal .... Temporal, Ethical .... Equivocal, Excellent .... Adequate, Experienced .... Cynical, Fair .... Scrupulous,Fertile .... Luxuriant, Flexible .... Rigid, Forgiving .... Resenting, Free .... Regulated, Generous .... Petty, Gentle .... Rough, Gifted .... Lucky, Giving .... Taking,Global .... Local, Gracious .... Decorous, Grateful .... Indebted, Harmonious .... Disruptive, Healing .... Irritating, Helpful .... Meddling, Holistic .... Analytic, Honest .... Legal, Honoring .... Enshrining, Humble .... Diffident, Humorous .... Somber, Impartial .... Righteous, Ingenious .... Scheming, Inspired .... Mundane, Intentional .... Calculating, Intuitive .... Literal, Inventive .... Prosaic, Inviting .... Urging, Involved .... Obsessed, Joyful .... Pleasurable, Just .... Punitive, Kind .... cruel, Leading .... Coercing, Liberating .... Restricting, Long-term .... immediate,Loyal(?) .... Chauvinistic,Merciful .... Permissive, Modest .... Haughty, Natural .... Artificial, Noble .... Pompous, Nurturing .... Draining, Observant .... Suspicious,Open .... Secretive, Optimistic .... Pessimistic, Orderly .... Confused, Outgoing .... Reserved, Patient .... Avid, Patriotic .... nationalistic, Peaceful .... Belligerent, Polite .... obsequious, Praising .... Flattering, Principled .... Expedient, Purposeful ....Desirous, Reliant .... Dependant, Selective .... Exclusive, Serving .... Ambitious,Sharing .... Hoarding, Surrendering .... Worrying,Thougthful .... Pedantic, Virtuous .... Celebrated