Relationships of New Order

To develop higher consciousness relationships have a look at these common mistakes humans make:

1. Never cover up your fears or insecurities
If you hold back your true feelings and are not able to speak your truth it will sooner or later destroy the relationship.
Covering this stuff is FEAR based and fear always leads to disharmony and inevitable pain. The degree of your intimacy will define the happiness/love of the relationship.
But be careful, i don't say be vulnerable to everyone. There are plenty of people out there who are not trustworthy. They must not judge you, thats the root of many fears.
In true compassionate relationships, it is really not about keeping the key for yourself as Dr. Paul says. Integrity is your key, and you don't give that key away, but eventually you will open the door.
When you think you can't trust another person have a look at yourself and find out if you can trust yourself first. Because if you can't trust yourself you are not able to see the trust in others.


2. A relationship is not there to make you happy
To have a successful relationship, it is important to already be HAPPY and INDEPENDANT. Many people seek the other sex to stop the feeling of loneliness and want to be loved. I know these are two basic human needs, but their fullfilment comes from within. It is to accept yourself fully as you are and to REALIZE that you are enough, losing approval seeking etc.
So a relationship should serve interdependence.


3. Lacking Polarity
It is like with magnets, the more you are polarized the more you attract. The world is full of polarization good-evil,earth-heaven, yeah only opposites make thinking possible. But only recently we get to know that it is the same with the masculine and feminine energy.
Androgyny is when couples get trapped into a rote routine of bickering, arguing and delegating equal decision making and equal everything basically. They have become equal. They become more like friends than LOVERS. What if you're putting out dominant and aloof vibes? You're going to attract back the kind of women that like being dominated, submissive and approval seeking. I will talk about the specific masculine traits and how to develop them later.


As you can see there are some characteristics which have to be developed (random order):

1. Vulnerability, Intimacy, Trust
2. Honesty
3. Integrity
4. Compassion, Love
5. Truth, Awareness
6. courage, Putting up with crap
7. Self-Love, joy
8. Freedom
9. Non-Judgement
10.Acceptance

==> Basically it's all the same: Transcending the ego, it all comes down to it.These traits are based on love, on saying yes to all what is. There's no morality behind it.


Furthermore as you can see it comes down to ultimate inner game, because a relationship reflects who you are and brings out every frame you hold. That's where many pickup artists crack, because all they did is learning some superficial techniques to get the girl.Also they are more likely to feel empty or even burdened because they miss the whole OFFERING. It is at a level of achieving a goal of desire and women should be no goal of desire because they are persons, not things. This is of no use anymore and that is why inner game is so powerful, because it spreads out to pick up, work, creativity, fun etc.

A relationship is about making yourself vulnerable, open up, share yourself, grow and discover each others core, to reach a depth in where you two become one. Where two become more than the sum of them.