L.o.v.e.

What four magical letters they are. Everybody wants it, everybody thinks he knows what it is, but nobody really attains it or understands what it is.
Relationships break apart again and again, and everybody blames the other one. Half couples are divorced and most of the other half just lives side by side in neutrality.
Maybe there is something wrong with the so-called love? It is.

There are three kinds of love:
1. Lust 95%
2. Love 4%
3. Lovingness 0.4%

The percentage behind the words is a scientific researched number of how many people live in this kind of consciousness. So only 4% are really ready for relationships. So chances are that you are in lust cionsciousness, even I am still I think ;)

I will just clarify the first two, the thrird still seems way off.
The ordinary love is attachment, for man and women mainly lust because of the attraction mechanism, and some personal traits that are based on similarities and differences. Note that men are not the only scapegoats, the attraction mechanism of women is similar.
When two people come together their inside realities clash and the outer things become meaningless. Then what about a hot body, about a funny attitude? It does not longer attract because it is already there. The superficial falls away and then people are left alone with the others madness, then they both feel cheated and the misery begins.
You are using the other as a means, it is exploitation and possession.

Real love is manlike, you're detached from physicality, love becomes a sharing of your joys, is non-manipulative , freedom will be there and appreciation, more and more compassion and acceptance. You're living from the heart which gives lasting fullfilment.
You must be at least some kind of a meditator to come here and let synchronicity play it's part as a screening process. Jealousy and other miserable shit should be transcended here, because how can you love someone if you can't let them go? If your beloved adores someone else let him or her go, you are loving and thus ONLY want HAPPINESS for that person. This love does not possess.
Here you can see that it has no logic to it, it is moving from the linear to the non-linear and cannot be measured. You transcended NEEDS and by doing that there are no real "reasons" left for your love. The moment your love is a need you are making a fear based decision because you think you are not accepted by existence. Real love is a state of mind and you choose your lover from heart- centered values which gives lasting fulfillment.

Content: Osho, The Koan of Relationships