New Website

Hey,

my new site is "somehow" up. I still have to install some plugins and make some adjustments as well as choose a new domain name as soon as possible. But for now it's available right here:

http://frank.webhostzone.de/

Wow, there's a lot to come

Just a little update. I studied a lot in the last few weeks, but also did a lot of micro inner game management. So I take a few days off to rest and eat a big fat goose.
Happy Christmas by the way

And it's so fucking hilarious, that almost anything I learned so far about spirituality has proved to be true in experience. I almost cried when I thought about what human potential there is, ALL PROBLEMS could be solved and just nobody knows about it. I'm sure there will come a HUGE change in some years. And I'm not only talking about when the financial system proves itsself again to be a fallacy. I mean a change in Consciousness, what Osho calls Zorba the Buddha.
I think I'll do some more clarifying posts about this stuff, to show that it's not spooky stuff and that it does not have to make you go mad.

Doing inner game, I also noticed how fucked up I am myself. When you realize that getting guilty, ashamed, proud and so on are just distortions of truth, and actually fuck you up, because they are not even needed. You literally take on a higher perspective and from then on it makes no sense to go back. Why are they not needed? Because it's not you feeling guilty, ashamed, proud, etc. It's your ego. Most people don't care they think it's just the way it is and dandle themselves in neutrality. But we're here to go to the next level right? It's not enough to work 9-5 at a boring job, or have unsatisfying relationships. It's about being the very best you can be.
And when I get to know something I post it, assumed I'll get the shit handled

So happy holidays and don't stop growing.

Funniest Cat Videos Ever

I packed in some cute and funny ones. Did you know that a cat purr calibrates at 500? Well, I guess I wasted my last life with cat cuddling and that's why I have an allergy now. Anyway, even if you're a cat fan like me I think you'll find one that you haven't seen yet.

What the Fuck?! - Spiritual Experiences

Mhhh crazy stuff.... Today and yesterday I started trying out "The Love All Method" and "The Awareness watching Awareness Method" from the book "The most direct means to eternal bliss" from Michael Langford. I jerked off to porn while smoking a cigarette and at the same time trying to love myself completely. It was quite interesting that I felt very very blissful after that for 5 hours straight until I fell asleep. It was a tingling and warm feeling, with all worries evaporated. It was so good that I was content with doing nothing but just enjoying the feeling for hours. There were still thoughts and they only dissapeared for a minute or so when I tried to love them too. I felt that before in the heart chakra meditation, but not so strong. Today I tried it again and it was even so intense that it was overwhelming, but only for about 30 seconds. Then the feeling almost dissapeared. I guess there's a lot of shame and guilt involved doing things you would normally condem yourself for doing them and it's quite a blast when it's released.

Right after that I did the Awareness watching Awareness Method additionally and fell asleep while doing it. When I woke up I saw a small light with darkness around it. Don't know if it's the light all the scriptures talk about. However this state did not feel like hypnosis or like a lucid dream. Don't know what to think about it though.
Well, it's cool experiencing such stuff when you just tried it out for the first time. I'm excited what's about to come and if I'm able to love myself under any circumstances all the time.

Compassion Shortcut

1. Identify the Conflict
2. Roles
- How did I invite this into my life? What role did I play?
Empathy
1- See the events through my own eyes
2- See the events from the other person's eyes – Empathy

Try to imagine the background of that person. Try to imagine what that person was taught as a child. Try to imagine the day or week that person was going through, and what kind of bad things had happened to that person. Try to imagine the mood and state of mind that person was in — the suffering that person must have been going through to mistreat you that way. And understand that their action was not about you, but about what they were going through.

3- See the events from the outside observer perspective -> Objectivity
3. Practical Lessons
What are the practical lessons that I need to learn from this experience?
What will I do differently next time?
4. The World is Your Mirror
What aspects of myself are being reflected back to me? Be brutally honest.
Look at the chakras...
- Red: Did I take care of my body?
- Orange: Was I needy?
- Yellow: Did I put up with crap? Did I give away my power?
- Green: Did I accept myself fully and allow myself to feel loved?
- Blue: Did I speak my truth at all times?
- Indigo: Did I live in the NOW, or did I dwell on past or future events? Did I take response-ability?
5. Release Blame
This is easy when I realize that I am not a victim. I am an active participant in this, and I chose this experience in order to learn from it.
Don't just see the person - look at the SOUL. There is a Soul inside that body and it is here, just like I am, learning the tough lessons of love and life. IF I ever see this person again, will I be able to be KIND to them? Can I be kind to this person from a distance? Can I be kind to them in my mind? HOW will I be kind to them? WHEN will I be kind to them?
Pray: "God, I ask you to forgive the ego for the (anger, resentment, positionalities, addictions to drama, neediness, etc.) and I now ask for healing and your Divine Grace. I also ask that you Bless this 'other person' with your Presence. Thank You. Thy Will Be Done."

You should be feeling a surge of compassion and gratitude for the other person involved in the conflict/contract. You should now be viewing this experience as a GIFT. If not, then go back through the steps and start over. It may take a few times to get to the lessons you need. If you are not getting the lessons that you need, simply rake the feelings out of your body, Bubble the whole thing and trust the Universe to send you the appropriate people, situations and contexts that will help you increase your awareness.

This is a small résumé of the 5DC Compassion formula created by Stephane from ideagasms.

The 11 Most Effective Productivity Hacks

1. Get up early in the morning, like at 5am, and go straight to work on your most important task. You can often get more done before 8am than most people do in a day.

2. Apply an attitude of silence and tempo and work alone. A dead silent environment is a sure bet. Then always try to do your work a little faster, move out of your comfort zone. And do this by your own and not in groups. You should only specifically seek out questions, this won't slow down your accomplishments.

3. Limit tasks to the important to shorten work time. This is referred to as the 80/20 Principle or Pareto's law. It says that from 20% of your invested time flows 80% of the results. That's an insane ratio and often it is more. So make it a taks to find out where to apply it. In case of need do brainstorming.

4. Shorten work time to limit tasks to the important (Parkinson's law). Setting deadlines is a must, but don't bullshit yourself. You must set real deadlines that increase your speed at least 200%.

5. Always visualize what you will get out of changing a certain habit. Look at how your live is going be in 5-10 years from now when you stick to a goal or settle for comfort. Seeing the results directly will have a huge impact and boost motivation. There's no holding back when you can see that you can enjoy abundant relationships instead of spending hours for hours in front of the TV.

6. Separate the truly important tasks from the merely urgent. And always choose the important one.

7. Delegate as much tasks as possible. Give yourself rewards, like a massage, a new LCD Screen or whatever. And apply a 30 day trial for difficult goals.

8. Always work on your production capacity. Stephen Covey calls it the "sharpen your saw" habit. It's important that you also learn how to learn faster. You can try speed reading, photoreading, memorization stuff, speed typing and so on, depending on what you're doing.

9. Resolve all stupid or inefficient habits like checking the mail everyday, visiting the same blogs or websites again and again, taking a nap and the daily hour TV. And replace it wit heffective ones. Daily routine is key!

10. Keep the balance: Exercise at least 4 times a week and socialize at least 3 times a week if it's possible. This keeps your mind fresh and is no rocket sience.

11. Do it now! Recite this phrase over and over until you’re so sick of it that you cave in and get to work.

Lessons in Pride- Pride (LoC 175) vs Humility (LoC >500)

Pride is self-centered; Humility carries the concerns of others
Pride isolates itself from others; Humility sees the need of others
Pride enjoys independence and likes to function alone; Humility enjoys teamwork
Pride encourages separatism; Humility unifies
Pride is cold, aloof & withdrawn; Humility is warm, outgoing and responsive
Pride is sophisticated; Humility is childlike
Pride is complex; Humility is simple
Pride is impatient; Humility is longsuffering
Pride is critical of others; Humility encourages others
Pride is resentful; Humility forgives and forgets
Pride seeks to impress others; Humility is to be known for what we really are
Prided is deceitful; Humility is transparently honest
Pride revels in the adulation of man; Humility automatically gives God the Glory
Pride fears men and their reactions; Humility fears God and cares only for His reaction
Pride makes excuses; Humility communicates the whole truth
Pride justifies; Humility quickly acknowledges failure
Pride covers sin; Humility confesses, repents and makes restitution
Pride envies another's promotion/advantages; Humility rejoices and gives honor
Pride is more excited about sharing knowledge; Humility is more excited about learning
Pride is self-absorbed; Humility is sensitive to others
Pride argues with God; Humility submits and accepts His will
Pride insists on proving that we are right; Humility relinquishes that right
Pride rebels against authority; Humility submits
Pride resists correction; Humility is grateful for it
Pride is cynical; Humility believes and trusts
Pride thinks "What they need to learn from me."; Humility thinks, "What can I learn from them?"
Pride seeks the recognition of others; Humility is content with obscurity

Wow, this list opened a door ... I'm still a very proud bastard ;-)

Strong vs Weak Energy Patterns and The Map of Conscioussness

Human behaviour always puzzled me. Especially when it came to terms with "right" and "wrong"and which path to go in life and why. All kinds of people do different things some because it gives them pleasure, some because they want to make money, survive, live comfortably become famous or to better support their children and some are just lazy. And then there were some few who could live what they love and again some very few who were not motivated by all of this stuff. It always seemed to come down to the context of a situation / interaction, but then there were "different contexts on the same level" and you again did not know what to think about it. But reading the book Power vs Force from David Hawkins it suddenly dawned on me that it's all about finding the next bigger context which then gives the opportunity to evaluate with the understanding of the whole. Meaning precedes motivation which in turn comes from context. Enhancing contexts, that is higher truth, then brings you more and more away from the illusion of reality until you reach enlightenment. When you don't learn about the nature of love and that you're not your ego, to progress or to think that this stuff I'm talking about could be true is very hard. Many of the smart human beings today are still stuck at the 400's with reason as their major operating tool.
If you really want to get a handle of the level of conscioussness I would advise you to read the whole Hawkins Book series, because there's a lot of stuff which has to be understood. I'll probably post some more stuff when I have some realizations, or find some striking points, but otherwise this would be just too much.
But for those of you who are interested here's the map:


But now I want to share with you a list from the book Power vs Force which makes a major distinction between strong and weak energy patterns. Depending on who you think you are, your life view and so on, you delevop a certain Motivation which controls your thinking, attitudes, behavior, habits and character and vice versa. You can say that these energy patterns are greater than you, like natural forces who are manipulated only very indirectly by you; at least they are not obivous for the average human being. The ability to differentiate between high and low energy patterns is a matter of perception and discrimination that most of u learn by painful trial and error. Failure, suffering and eventual sickness reult from the influence of weak patterns. Success, happiness, and health proceed from powerful attractor patterns.
Weak energy patterns calibrate lower than 200 (This is the level of integrity where real power first appears) which basically means that they are destructive to life and overly egoistic or narcissistic. People who are in this range are generally unable to be honest, because shame, guilt, apathy, fear, desires, anger and pride are too dominant for their low self-esteem to overcome. But that's just one thing, they may be unpleasant to be around in many other ways; they take more energy from society than they reciprocate. But because there are many states of consciousness in a single human being, this list can be very helpful for you to determine in which area of life you are working against nature.

Reflection on the many contrasting pairs of qualities can initiate a consciousness-raising process, so that one gradually becomes aware of patterns operating in relationships, business affairs, and all various interactions that make up the fabric of life.

Note: But be careful, the words represent their true meaning. Patriotic for example calibrates high, because it is an act of love. But it's not comparable with the american "patriotism" which is indeed nationalistic and thus fundamentalistic. The dots divide first the strong and then the weak patterns.

Abundant .... Excessive, Accepting .... Rejecting, Admitting .... Denying, Aesthetic .... Artsy, Agreeable .... Condescending, Allowing .... Controlling, Appreciative .... Envious, Approving .... Critical, Attractive .... Seductive, Authoritative.... Dogmatic, Aware.... Preoccupied, Beautiful .... Glamorous, Being.... Having, Believing .... Insisting, Brilliant .... Clever, Candid .... Calculating, Carefree .... Frivolous, Challenged .... Impeded, Charitable .... Prodigal, Cheerful .... Manic, Cherishing .... Prizing, Choosing-to .... Having to, Civil .... Formal, Concerned .... Judgemental, Concilliatory .... Infelxible, Confident .... Arrogant, Confronting .... Harassing, Conscious .... Unaware, Considerate .... Indulgent, Constructive .... Destructive, Contending .... Competing, Courageous .... Reckless, Defending .... Attacking, Democratic .... Dictorial, Detached .... Removed, Determined .... Stubborn, Devoted .... Posessive, Diplomatic .... Deceptive,Doing .... Getting, Educating .... Persuading, Egalitarian .... Elitist, Empathetic .... Pitying, Encouraging .... Promoting, Energetic .... Agitated, Enlivening .... Exhausting, Envisioning .... Picturing, Equal .... Superior, Erotic .... Lustful, Esential .... Apparent, Eternal .... Temporal, Ethical .... Equivocal, Excellent .... Adequate, Experienced .... Cynical, Fair .... Scrupulous,Fertile .... Luxuriant, Flexible .... Rigid, Forgiving .... Resenting, Free .... Regulated, Generous .... Petty, Gentle .... Rough, Gifted .... Lucky, Giving .... Taking,Global .... Local, Gracious .... Decorous, Grateful .... Indebted, Harmonious .... Disruptive, Healing .... Irritating, Helpful .... Meddling, Holistic .... Analytic, Honest .... Legal, Honoring .... Enshrining, Humble .... Diffident, Humorous .... Somber, Impartial .... Righteous, Ingenious .... Scheming, Inspired .... Mundane, Intentional .... Calculating, Intuitive .... Literal, Inventive .... Prosaic, Inviting .... Urging, Involved .... Obsessed, Joyful .... Pleasurable, Just .... Punitive, Kind .... cruel, Leading .... Coercing, Liberating .... Restricting, Long-term .... immediate,Loyal(?) .... Chauvinistic,Merciful .... Permissive, Modest .... Haughty, Natural .... Artificial, Noble .... Pompous, Nurturing .... Draining, Observant .... Suspicious,Open .... Secretive, Optimistic .... Pessimistic, Orderly .... Confused, Outgoing .... Reserved, Patient .... Avid, Patriotic .... nationalistic, Peaceful .... Belligerent, Polite .... obsequious, Praising .... Flattering, Principled .... Expedient, Purposeful ....Desirous, Reliant .... Dependant, Selective .... Exclusive, Serving .... Ambitious,Sharing .... Hoarding, Surrendering .... Worrying,Thougthful .... Pedantic, Virtuous .... Celebrated

I love China

Uhhghh, I'm really starting to fall in love with this country. There are so many people everywhere, the culture is just cool and the chinese girls are very cute. I just arrived back home and thought I'd share some pics. It was the most packed trip I've ever done. I think there was one day I travelled by bus, train, boat and plane. I did not do many "cool" shots, because I was not in charge of the camera. When you take 1400 pictures and videos that's actually not a bad thing ;-). But at least you get some impressions of what's goin' on there. And yes I ate it all ;-).

Neg Hits

Neg hits calibrate at 175, the level of desire if used as an artificial and manipulative means for creating high value. So the following list is more for you MM guys who lack inspiration. Non the less you can use some soft ones for teasing (which is lovely and a form of play and flirting) and regaining respect if she puts some shit on you. Before all else here are some bad examples:

Sexy: Wow.. you're sexy… almost as sexy as me.
-> bragging -> DLV
Stumble: She stumbles: First day on your new feet, ah?
Back Turn: I just had to tell you this, your body is the most perfect body for a woman with a great personality.
-> low on style
Fart: Sniff air: Did you just fart? (Quietly as if you were trying to ask ONLY her, but make sure her friends hear you.)
-> that's probably a bit too off for most people

Ok, it's all about calibration so I put in some unusual ones, but most of them quite fit everytime:

Age: Her: How old are you? You: Why, do you need someone to buy beer for you?
Alcoholic: She says something stupid: How much to drink have you had already.
Attractive: There’s something attractive about you…I don’t know what it is, but I’m curious to find out.
Behind: You look sexy… from behind.
Belt: I like your belt. My little sister wore one just like that to her school disco last week.
Bet: Did you lose a bet with someone? Her: Why? You: Those shoes… OMG how do you wear them in public?
Blink: You blink a lot.
Breath, Tic-Tac: When she talks, gently interrupt: "Here…" and give her a tic-tac.
Busy, Hair: Busy today? Her: Yea, really busy! You: I can tell, your hair is all over the place.
Chance: You don’t have a chance.
Charm: What you lack in feminine charm you make up for in dress sense.
Clever: She says something even better than you: Wow that's clever. Did you make that up all by yourself?
Comfort: I dig the way you give up fashion for comfort.
Drink, Order: Waitress: Whaddaya want to drink? (Pause, look her in the eye.) What do you reccommend, are there any house specials? Her: Blah. (Look her dead in the eye, pause.) Nah, that sounds awful, why don't you just bring me a ______.
Drinks, Direct: I don't buy drinks for girls.
Ear: You’ve got something in your ear.
Earrings, Heavy: Those earrings are lovely, a little heavy on your ears but it's ok, people in Africa think that's sexy.
Easy: Hey, don’t get any ideas, cos I ain't easy.
Eyes: You have really pretty eyes. Especially the right one.
Feet: Look at her feet: Aww that's so cute, my kid sister is pigeon-toed too.
Finger on chin: point to her chest then swing your finger up to her chin and laugh: i got you
Hair Color: Is that your real hair color? Her: Blah. You: Well it’s still nice anyway.
Hair, Waffle: What do you call THAT hairstyle?… The Wafflel
Hi 5: She says something cool. Reach to give her a high five. As her hand gets closer move yours away. She'll miss: You dork! …Let's do this again!
Incompetence: Holy shit. You really don't know what you're doing, do you?
Interruption: Excuse me…May I finish my sentence first?
Introduction: Quit it! (Melodramatic voice.) Or I'm going call that guy over for you. (Playful, pointing to old or ugly man.)
Ketchup: Hey, you got something on your back… looks like ketchup.
Like This: To her friends: Is she ALWAYS like this?
Lipstick on Teeth: You have some lipstick on your teeth.
Make-Up: I bet you’re even prettier without so much make-up on.
Medication: Wow. You're nuts. Have you been taking your medication?
Middle Finger: Target uses body language to signal your a loser: Smile at her and give her the middle finger at the same time.
Model, Hand: You’re a model? You must be a hand model/your hair looks kinda nice.
Model, Short: Wow, you look great.. you could be a model… if you were little bit taller … and little bit thinner..
Mom: Heyyy I like that shirt (shoes, jewelry, etc.) My mom has it. But she’s not that old so don’t worry. Or: She still has some decent fashion sense though. Or: But she's still pretty cool.
Necklace: I saw a girl with that same necklace on earlier today, it looked really good.
Nervous: Target of set seems dismissive or distant: You look nervous, do you have an exam tomorrow or something? Or: Are the cops after you? Or: Don't be, I'm not even hitting on you
Nice Girl: I don’t think we should get to know each other. Her: Why? You’re too much of a nice girl for me.
Nose, Lips: Has anyone ever told you your lips make your nose look small/big? (Opposite of her nose size.)
Nose, Real: Nice nose…is it real??!!?
Nose Wiggles: Your nose wiggles when you talk. … That's so cute.
Not, Are You? Accuse her of being or doing something you find unacceptable or unattractive: You're not (shoplifting, etc.), are you?
Personality: You know, we've only been talking for two minutes, and already I'm having trouble imagining you with a personality.
Palms, Sweaty: Palm reading: Your hands are sweaty. -> for palm reading
Perfume, Grandma: Wow, I love that perfume! Her: Thanks. You: My grandma wears the same one. She picks up old men like crazy! Her: hahaha. You: OMG, she'd totally kick your ass if she thought you were trying to compete with her!
Princess: What do you want to be when you grow up? And don’t say princess. Her: Blah You: Lame! You’re a lameass.
Pull My Finger: Pull my finger…pfft ahhahaha. No really pull my finger…pffthahahha you fell for it again!
Rude: If your target says something even slightly rude you say, "You don't get out much do you?" or "Where's your off-button?"
Shirt, Terrible: That shirt looks fucking terrible on you. (Then don't give her much attention.)
Shoes, Comfort: Those shoes look really comfortable.
Spit: Eeww you spit on me! (Playful tone.)
Teeth: You've got something in your teeth (on your lip, chin, cheek, etc.) Matter of fact voice.
Teeth, Bunny: You have adorable Bugs Bunny teeth.
Ten To a 10 with full Bitch Shield: Hey, you're a 10. (Pause, looked her up and down.) Well maybe a 7! Her: (Speechless.) You: What’s wrong? 7 is good. No one is perfect.
Tired: Her: Hey, how are you? You: Fine, how about yourself? You look kinda tired. Her: (Freaks.) OMG i do? OMG. You: Oh no, don't worry, you don't look that bad at all.
Walk: There's something unique about the way you walk, reminds me of…a penguin (football player, etc.) maybe?

Poems about the Nature of Life

The here and now-ish

It's not where I'm going
or where I've been that matters
it's really more the here and now-ish
that can't be evaded
missteps can't be retaken
the holes ahead are lying in the dark
I'm standing in the pure light of the moment
strung between a memory and a dream
whatever I think I've learned
unravels as the day unfolds

following the shadows before me
brings only knowledge
of my ignorance




Resist and Decease

in the slow progression
and small irritations of daily life
the musty smell
of lost opportunities permeate
my venial indulgences

dry as grass in a drought
precious fantasies
and raucous hopes
are shriveling

waiting for time to spin
the wheel of happenstance
waiting for something
extraordinary

a growing desire
to act on the urge

to fall into
an opening
a blooming
a canyon so vast
as to lose myself
for the rest of my days




Manifesto

I’ve learned that things
never flow the way I want them;
not through the sweet fog of reverie
or by the anguish of restless desire.
They always come unannounced,
unbidden, and through secret corridors -
at the point where I had relinquished hope
by failing to envision their eventuality

Rarely do I receive the asked for gift;
the present is ever one degree beyond
or is lagging behind its boundless potential -
dissipating within my yearning.
Lost to the next day’s sheen.

Truth flails behind layers of verisimilitude
and sends out its urgent call.
My lids grow heavy with its spell.
I fight to awaken to the clarion voice,
but it draws me deeper into shadow;
leaving me with formless words from
a mind listening to infinite silence.


credits to Melissa from States of Being





The Wheel of Life

Time is-
Love is-
Death is-
And the Wheel turns,
And the Wheel turns,
And we are all bound to the Wheel.

And the sage said:
Lo, that which binds you to the Wheel
Is of your own making,
And the very Wheel
Is of your own making.
And the Wheel turns,
And the Wheel turns,
And we are all bound to the Wheel.

And the sage said:
Know that we are all One.
Know that the Wheel is of your own making,
Know that the Wheel is of your own making,
And we are all bound to the Wheel.

And the sage said:
Free yourself from the Wheel.
Know you are the One,
Accept your wn work,
Free yourself from the Wheel.
Know that the Wheel is of your own making,
And we are all bound to the Wheel.

And the sage freed himself from the Wheel,
and became the One,
The immortal God,
Freed from the Wheel,
Freed from illusion,
And knew why the One had created the Wheel.
And the One became many,
And the One became we,
And we are all bound to the Wheel.

Time is-
Love is-
Death is-
And the Wheel turns,
And the Wheel turns,
And we are all bound to the Wheel.

Approval Seeking I

People live their whole lives in believing what others say, dependant on others. That's why people are very afraid of others' opinions. If they think you are bad, you become bad. If they condemn you, you start condemning yourself. If they say you are a sinner you start feeling guilty. Because you have to depend on their opinions, you have to continuously conform to their ideas; otherwise they will change their opinions. This creates a slavery a very subtle slavery. If you want to be known as good, worthy, beautiful, intelligent, then you have to concede, you have to compromise continuously with people on whom you are dependant.
And another problem arises. Because there are so many people, they go on feeding your mind with different types of opinions - conflicting opinions, too. One opinion contradicting another opinion; hence a great confsuion exists inside you. One person says you are very intelligent, another person says you are stupid. How to decide? So you are divided. You become suspicious about yourself, about who you are .... a wavering. And the complexity is very great because there are thousands of people around you.
You come in contact with so many people, and everybody is feeding his ideas into your mind, and nobody knows you - not even you yourself know - so all this collection becomes jumbled up inside. This is a maddening situation. You have many voices inside you. Whenever you ask who you are, many answers will come. Some answers will be your mother's some will be your father's, some will be your teachers and so on and so forth. And it is impossible to decide which one is the right answer. How to decide? What is the criterion? This is where man is lost. This is self-ignorance.
But because you depend on others, you are afraid to go into aloneness - because the moment you start going into aloneness, you start becoming very afraid of losing yourself. You don't have yourself in the first place, but whatever self you have created out of the opinions of others will have to be left behind. Hence, it is very scary to go in. The deeper you go the less you know who you are. So in fact before you are moving towards self-knowledge, before it happens you will have to drop all believes about the self. There will be a gap; there will be a kind of nothingness. You will become a nonentity. You will be utterly lost because all that you know is no longer relevant, and that which is relevant you don't know yet.
Christian mystics call this "the dark night of the soul". It has to be passed, and once you have passed it, there is the dawn. The sun rises, and one comes to know oneself for the first time. the first ray of the sun and all is fulfilled. The first songs of the birds in the morning, and all is attained.

Osho, Intimacy


I love this.
Imagine how fucking awesome it would be, if you are attending your fathers 60th birthday standing in front of one hundred people sniffing a line (of course you take this fake "sniff" stuff :-D) and fucking your girlfriend. If this makes you shrink I'll guess you have to work on your approval seeking issues =). If this line I just said even offends you, that's probably a sign that you have even more approval seeking issues. If this is frightening you, you can also begin with some smaller "goals" of course, and step by step try to disidentify with what other people told you what you are truely not. As soon as I have more time, I'll experiment with this and tell you what worked for me and what did not. I think this is the biggest Inner Game issue you can work on. It will enrich your life tremendously.

It's always on

The mating screening process of men and women is always on. In every interaction both literally rate each other subconsciously with a ranking bar.
Women are relationship creatures which basically means that they find god through relationships and children if this is not a too fluffy expression for you. As a result women tend to stay in relationships just for the sake of it with the next good guy around. God bless, because otherwise there would not be that much relationships. Men would be more likely to fuck them and then again follow their purpose.
Naturals know this. And that's why they treat women always like women whether her finger is right next to her or not. And I think it's totally ok to put out your natural masculine vibe as long as you are not hitting on her too hard. A healthy mindset at this point is: "I know you have a boyfriend, and I respect that, but I don't compromise to be a sexual human being and it is your choice what you do". It's her choice so you should not get too guilty for seducing her as long as you are straight forward with your intentions. She should be mature enough to choose her boyfriend if she does not want to ruin the relationship.
Unfortunately most of todays women have no honour. If their boyfriend is not around she will probably cheat. It reminds me of reacting more like an animal than proactively choosing one's reality.
So remember it's always on and you have nothing to lose. If it's the girlfriend of one of your best friends you get involved with and she even cheats on him with you, don't be afraid. If your best friend is somehow rational he should thank you for showing him what a miserable bitch she is.

PS: Oh yeah, one more thing. You could wonder why I do not bother making a move on anothers girlfriend. It seems not integrous. But you could be any other guy if it comes to cheating. And if you genuinely like her start a relationship with her and train her to become a better woman. If you just want to fuck her it's probably a violation of love and respect, but I'm not so sure about this one. I would probably do it anyway if I'm really interested. If you have any suggestions please leave a comment below.

I don't need sex because university fucks me every day

Hi guys! A little update for you. Although I haven't started posting on other forums yet and still use the page for experimentation, there are some of you passing by from time to time. I'm still working on my examinations and it's hard to create new content. I noticed that I'm really interested in a lot of personal development stuff and intend to post something about success, productivity or even blogging and other stuff also. Of course it will be cool stuff that will skyrocket your abilities and you can be excited about it. I also intend to graduate to wordpress in a few months, because blogger really provides limited possibilities. Maybe I find a cool design. In 6 weeks I'll go to China, and with wordpress for example I could schedule pre-written posts to be published at certain dates, so you can read new stuff while I'm attending a chinese opera. You also have more control over design issues, comments and advanced features.

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Chakra Three: Fire

This chakra deals with the obstacles and opportunieties of power, will and self-esteem. Let's say you really tackled chakra one and two and you do not struggle anymore with money issues or living at the minimum. And you are also able to know how to meet your needs and how to enjoy life fully with a rich perspective. The next step for most individuals is to ask for something greater, to take full responsibility for theit own life and to make the things happen which they desire. Taking full responsibility is a HUGE step, because it also means taking an honest look at yourself and to bear that some of your past decisions and actions led to unpleasant circumstances: like a smoking habit, a fat body, being a jerk or loser around women or just to be a boring lazy douchebag.
Everybody has different resources to access from, and I don't blame anyone who studies like speedy gonzales and is not able to pull off his examinations. But everyone creates his own reality, and is able to be HIS best self. Believe me, it's often the lack of inner game that seperates the doers from the dreamers and not the IQ (for most of us).
I think the connections are very obvious, but the ability to be powerful is measured by your ability to exercise your will and your sense of power is directly linked to your level of self-worth. It's most likely that people who can easily meet their needs and are easily able to accomplish goals have high self-esteem. Most people's self-worth is dependant on others and few people are good and get praised and only these people become proud. From then on it is easier to give a shit on other people's opinions and move on into the heart, the 4th chakra.
But let's have a closer look at will, power and self-esteem.


1. Your Will
You need your will to make effective changes in the world, make choices and to overcome inertia of the lower chakras. It is the gateway from mind to action, it helps you to create your own future and I would say that it is WHAT MAKES YOU ALIVE.
Everybody who is good with women is also very good at exercising his will. This is what gives you that SPARK in your eyes, what is sooo attractive (this is what makes charismatic people).
To help you get a handle on this chakra the disctinction between will and true will is very useful:
If you do what someone else tells you to do, when you really would rather not, you are still exercising your will, but deep inside it's not your true will. To get it back we must realize we have chosen to do this and examine the reason for that choice. It's a bit tough to figure this out, because there seem to be many layers of your will, but if you play with it and try to do what you love and contemplate about why you do what you do, these layers will eventually unravel.
I don't how how this is to be explained whether you have a biological, psychological or spiritual approach, but I think no matter what the usefulness of this distinction is evident. You will start to feel your purpose when you feel a coherency of flow in your path. It is the part of our intelligence to perceive that path and a task of the will to follow that path.

Now I want you to give you some frames to improve your willpower:
Always examine your will
- are you trying to please?
- are you scared of the consequences?
- are you out of touch with yourself?
- is your will in address of looking good, being liked, keeping peace or avoiding responsibility?

Once we know what our will is serving we must then ask what it might be betraying
- is looking good betraying your honest needs?
- is keeping the peace perpetuating negative circumstances that might need to be confronted?
- is pleasing others lowering your self-esteem?

To make these effects conscious is to empower yourself to choose between them. True will requires a deep communication with the self, trust in yourself, a willingness to take risks and accept responsibilities for those risks which will strengthen your sense of self.

However there are some traps to get stuck in this chakra.
Your self-discilpine for example is important but works better as a want than a should: without agreement between will and desire, we lose our passion and momentum and thereby dissipate the power needed to carry out our will
It is very important to know why you exercise your will and what direction you choose. If you are in the wrong jungle no way is the right one. And by exercising your will you will soon discover that it is not all about personal development and productivity or other needs of the ego, but about discovering yourself, finding truths and fullfilment, the way of the heart.
How can we exert our will if we don't know what we want? - KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. While undue attachment to our desires may keep us trapped in lower chakras, suppression only blocks the force of the will. Try to exercise your will AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. Go from whims to far-reaching cause and effects to your larger purpose.
Also try to recognize when the will becomes detrimentally dominating and overly controlling and let go.



2. Self-esteem

When your self-esteem is high you are confident, pro-active, disciplined and excited about life. Many inner game issues come from a lack of self-esteem. Self-dout and recrimination lead to inertia and paralysis.
Basically there are three ways to improve your self-esteem:
1. do sports (first chara)
2.meet your needs (second chakra)
3.do much trial and error, which gives you a sense of your own abilities (third chakra)


3. Power

Our society basically teaches us that we are powerless, it reinforces conformity in order to control us. It makes us believe that power is somewhere outside of us, whereas the truth is that true power comes from within. Today we are faced with the challenge to change our fundamental believes about power. That the purpose of power is not to dominate and divide but to enhance, strengthen and empower. Real power must strengthen individuals and cultures simultaneously rather than exploiting the great majority of people. The strength of any group depends on its solidarity and its ability to combine and coordinate it's inner forces.
Without power from within we stagnate, lose our enthusiasm, our will and desires; we become machines and without our autonomy we lose the desire to innovate. Vicitms become dumb, turn to drugs and seek stimulation.
Because power comes from within we need to be conscious or aware and understand the relationship between things. True power stems from your reasoning ability.

The affirmations are:
"I choose to appreciate all my unique qualities"
"I choose to own my own strength"
"I choose to keep my power for myself"

Authenticity vs Manipulation

Who are you?
Are you sure that everything that you do is authentic?
If you react furious and out of control when someone insults you, is this the real you?
If you wake up and follow your daily morning habit reading a book, is this in any other way more authentic than going for a walk?
Is the intention to get a girl into bed different than the intention to make her happy, although they are both intentions to manipulate?


To anwer these questions, you have to know who you are or at least what you are not. Many people try to answer these questions, yet many confuse integrity with authenticity. Integrity means acting according to your own values beyond your desires and being honest. This is an important step to reach authenticity, but it's not authenticity itself. Nobody is authentic, because nobody knows who he is. Who are you? - many philosophers asked this question and few come to understand ..... they went on asking and asking this question and everything they found was nothing, pure awareness.
Just give yourself new parents, new beliefs or a blemished face, make yourself into a a hindu, a musician, a rapist, a nerd. And you see there is something that never changes....and how can something that is always changeable be you? Your worldy interactions depend on these superficial personalities but they are not you.
But what does that mean about our behaviour?
It means that everything our EGO, our false identification with the self, does is inauthentic.
This approach may seem a bit unpractical at first, because it shows that everything in life that you always did was inauthentic. But it will point you towards a direction that will bring you fulfillment, joy and lasting peace.
Because you identify with the ego you will make the egos beliefs and actions into "authentic" beliefs and actions.
Take the craving for success for example: In the meantime it's common knowledge that success is not going to make you happy, far from it, it will make you miserable because with accomplishement the hope is also gone. This idea that success makes you happy is grounded in the opinions of others. And how can make you something happy that is not authentic?
People think it's themselves, but social conditioning has done a good job.
The only thing that can make you happy is your relationship with the present moment. It means doing something for the pure joy of doing it remote from achieving goals for a REASON. The marketplace is useful for survival but not for your heart and fullfilment.
That of course means that having success is not a bad thing and if it happens when you walk along your way embrace it and use it's opportunities.

Is the intention to get a girl into bed different than the intention to make her happy, although they are both intentions to manipulate?
95% of all guys have the intention/want to fuck beautiful women when they start interacting with them. Most compromise their values more or less. It does really not make that much of a difference if you bring up your gameplan or not. But the trick is to keep to your values and just have fun. Synchronicity is the best game plan there is. And collecting fucks with awful chicks is leading you nowhere at all. Try to understand women and talk to them in a way that responds to their attraction mechanism AND their heart. Learning to make women happy and satisfy them on every level is NOT manipulation because it is in alignment with love (but it can be, you must be honest to yourself, love or fear?). Nor is it inauthentic, because your ego cannot be nurtured by it, it does not gain anything. Love is a sharing and ironically this will make your girls addicted to you. Actually everybody only tries to understand himself more, self-realization is the most basic need and with this the magic happens. Your interest for enjoying pure sex without responsibilities will diminish, because you know your drives are just tricking you into survival and replication.

If you wake up and follow your daily morning habit reading a book, is this in any other way more authentic than going for a walk?
What do you enjoy more going for a walk or reading a book?
Again, the question is about integrity, because if you where authentic you would problably walk around like a buddha doing nothing than acts of compassion.
Which one is more in alignment with heart-centered values?
If you feel rested and excited about the book read it no matter how stupid the book is.
Maybe you would enjoy taking a walk but it is not in alignment with your long-term goals of being an educated man or woman so you choose proactivity and read the book.

If you react furious and out of control when someone insults you, is this the real you?
Reacting like a raging bull, taking out a sword and playing kill bill cannot be authentic neither sitting still getting a red head and surpressing feelings. You are authentic if you don't FEEL anything at all besides compassion. When someone calls you a butthole, you are angry because you think on some level it's true and you identify with being a cool ever perfect guy. Your sense of self is threatened, otherwise there would be no emotional protection mechanism.
How can you identify yourself with being a dirty part of your back that only produces some wastage? It's not even not helpful but also illogical ;-).
Why identify with ANYTHING? A name etc is useful, but that's it, there's no reason to attach a sense of self to a name.

Are you sure that everything that you do is authentic?
The ego is behind most of our actions, even the desire to become non-desirous is a desire. Embrace your ego it has made survival possible. But every time it tries to bother you with some bullshit you can now clearly see that this is based on an illusion, keeping you trapped in some weird game called life, watch it and let it go. You cannot unidentify with something by identifing yourself with the counterpart. Always accept it, make fun of it, watch it and the identification will dissapear. I'm still trying with this stuff, and it's not as easy as it seems.

Inner Game Quotes

Here are some picks of my favorite quotes. They all calibrate at different levels, but just let them sink in and be inspired. If you don't yet know what love is or other spiritual basics, you'll soon start to love them.

"ALL game is inner game"

"Having "game" will not allow you passage, Only Heart "

"Sow a thought and you reap an act; Sow an act and you reap a habit; Sow a habit and you reap a character; Sow a character and you reap a destiny."

"Spriritual truth makes the clitty tingle"

"If you truly love someone, set them free... If they come
back, they are yours truly"

"When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace"

"Do what you will shall be the whole of the Law"

"Actions always speak louder than words"

"Normality is the way to No-Where-Land"

"The reason you’re not successful is that you haven’t failed enough and you have to fail more and faster"

"Losing is not an option!"

"No better love than love with no object,
no more satisfying work than work with no purpose.
If you could give up tricks and cleverness,
that would be the cleverest trick!"

"The game is learned in the field."

"People will forget what you said,
people will forget what you did,
but people will never forget how you made
them feel"

" I find television very educating. Every time someone turns on the set i go into the other room and read a book"

"To know women is to love women"

“The things you don’t like in others is often the darkness in yourself that you refuse to face”

"The greatest enemy of a human being is himself"

"As my dear departed grandmother used to say, opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one and they all stink"

"Fuck that, i just walk up, look her in the eyes, and feel her energy. If she knows what's good for her, she'll date me in a heartbeat"

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it "

"There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way"

"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change"

"Shoot for the moon even if you miss you will land among the stars"

"Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense"

"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage"

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act but an habit"

"If you don't know your destiny, no way is the right one"

"Only if we lost everything we have the freedom to do everything"

"Getting pussy is a side dish that happens naturally when you're living a good life"

"Successful people ask better questions as a result they become better answers"

"The path to success is to take massive determined action"

"If you do what you've always done you get what you've always gotten"

"Are you a player?" and other Tests Women use

When a girl asks this question it's probably gone very smoothly for you. To understand many things what women are saying you need some assistance in female psychology and frame control. Women have dynamic social intution what means it's often not WHAT they are saying what matters but what trojan horses are implemented in their questions. Your answers will reveal your attitudes and hidden true self to her which she will analyse to congruence with alpha male behaviour.
To make connections with the last post, if you are in state you will AUTOMATICALLY PASS this one and ANY other test with flying colors without further ado. But if you are not, here is the micro psychology behind it.

"Are you a player?" implies 2 things:
- she's already attracted to you
- she knows that the answer will provide her with additional information. No logical man is able to answer that question with his mind in order to MAKE her feel more attraction, because this can be faked. She will know if you are able to give her that feeling of taking her smoothly into bed.

Whether you act arrogant or take her frame it will tell her that you are NOT THAT of a player.
Framecontrol is important here, she knows that there is no need to step into her frame when you are already a player because players are the men who know how to advance smoothly without talking about "why do you think that" and stuff. Stepping into frames is also a sign of low social status. It would be smoothly to reframe her: "Thank you. You're cool too." This also shows that you exactly know what she's saying, do not excuse for being good with women and you are funny.

What happened to me when I was in state I just said nothing and smiled. This has the same characteristics as mentioned above. You will not get tested AT ALL if you're able to maintain that heart-centred state, because all this creepyness and neediness cannot exist.

Basically women do test you
- when you're needy
- if you hold your frame or step into hers
- if she want to see if you are stronger than her
- or don't make her number one priority in your life
- if you respect yourself
- if you can put up with her crap


Examples would be:
- "i'm afraaaaaaid of getting huuurt"
- "I don't know i don't want to ruin our friendship, because i like you so much"
- she intentionally mismatches with you, to see if you stay in yang energy
- you're beating around the bush and do not make an escalation move, she'll keep you around for validation

Stay in your Heart - The Way to Happiness and Women :)

Ok this concept will probably change your life. So listen up and get ready because this is not just a concept which has to be understood but has to be figured out in real life and lived. Heart consciousness is a STATE in which you will plop when you are very present and feel fully accepted. Many think this is some kind of whoo-whoo shit but actually this is because they do not KNOW that they're not their ego. Has it ever happened to you that you made something very special and exiting or that you felt very safe and accepted? And that in these moments (which were probably rare) much of what you said was just funny, creative, easy-going, you felt very good, time flew by and at the same time you were confident did literally put up with bullshitters and did not get insecure?
This happens when you live fully from your heart.
Sadly, social conditioning (yes, you can also thank your parents for this gift) has installed many fucked up beliefs in your head that prevent you from staying in this state. I will give you some examples: The teachers, your parents, your friends all will tell you that if you do XY you are NOT ENOUGH, that you are not good enough, not brave enough, not cool enough, not successful enough.
And then all these people gave you IDENTIFICATIONS with what you are truely not, a simple example would be your name, there were wars because of names. Or that you are good at football or in general. You see you will be hurt if someone tells you're a loser, because you identify with not being a loser but deep down you will ever doubt that it could be true in one way or another. People gave it to you that's why they can take it again.
When you are in this state there is no ego. So how can you be afraid or not playful?
Even when you are in this state and a beautiful women goes by you will drop out because you have these desires in your crotch which make you go into the mind like "how can I make her attracted to me?". You have this need and out of your neediness you are scared that you are not enough for her. Otherwise why being afraid? This is just with women over your comfort zone I personally did not buy this stuff from Mystery that it is hard-wired because of survival, because how does this explain that I am comfortable with normal even beautiful looking girls and I think you know this too. Your desire compromises your integrity and that's why.

I'll give you some characteristics of whether you know if your heart is open or the heart of your girl (which is also a good way of qualification)
It's all the characteristics of love itself:

- caring
- understanding->compassion
- giving unconditionally
- open
- acceptance
- respect
- trust
- high self-esteem
- honour
- loyalty
- integrity
- proactivity
- confidence (at least looks like confidence, more like not seeking approval)
- humor
- playfullness
- feel secure
- creative
- not thinking

Be aware that you can not fake these characteristics and if you fake them you're exactly at the opposite place. As i say it comes from being in state and enjoying the moment.
You can easily see all this characteristicts above evolve around being accepted. And the truth is that it is your choice, you do not need to have a phd in mathematics.


So how do we get to this state?

1) Realize that you are enough, abundant, ..
-> this will get rid of many fears, doubts

Repeat the following lines each night shortly before sleep or when you think you lack the belief:
"I am enough"
"I let go of what is not needed and welcome change"
"I trust God to supply abundance, prosperity"

2) Put up with crap
crap is all what is not love, that's it, try to get a feelingwith this
i will make another post with making exact distinctions another time

"I own my own strength"
"I appreciate my unique qualities"


=> Listen to the Chakra meditations 1-4 every day (see www.idegasms.net) it will be like brainwashing backwards.
It's good to be very sleepy for that.

3) LIVE in INTEGRITY . That means creating your own values and sticking to them: values of the heart see love characteristics

- get to know integrity buy a book about it
- get the 5D compassion formula from www.ideagasms.net
- actively hold on to these alues
- do not cover up your true feelings and insecurities, if you are afraid don't act cool remove all barriers
- speak your truth
- always try to enhance your wisdom of the nature of things

4) Find friends who do not judge you and accept yourself as much as possible and have fun with them do what you feel like if you heart is open you will just do something that comes to mind and fun can evovle around something stupid.

5) Thymus thump
Simultaneously
- Smile
- Think about someone you love
- Make a fist with your hand
- Thump on the center of your chest in 3 sets of 3 while saying, “ha ha ha, ha ha ha, ha ha ha”

Examination Time II

I'll take a break for about 2 months for my intermediate examinations and some holidays.

Maybe I'll drop one or two posts in awhile ;)

Key Dating Mistakes

1. Failure to escalate. Listen - if you treat her like a friend, that's all you'll get. You have to start TOUCHING women when you speak to them. You know, take her hand and hold it a little too long, hold eye contact a little too long, run your fingers on her forearm, offer hugs, take her wrist and lead her to sit down, and so on. If you do not do this stuff, you'll typically get rejected. She knows you WANT to, so do it. If she resists, just use all the 'gentleman's game' stuff and wash, rinse, repeat. Ask yourself, "Is it wrong or offensive to be intimate with women?"

2. Failure to stay in the Heart. So you get horny (root chakra) and then you go in the mind and start trying to GET sex & love. You start going, "What should I say? How should I carry myself?" and you are concerned with manipulation and mental chess games, in an empty pursuit of approval and status. The trick is to let that go and Just Love Women. Be in SILENCE when you approach, do not THINK, just BE. The words and GAME will come to you ONLY through your heart. You must be willing to make yourself THAT vulnerable.

3. In a casual conversation, many of you are basically reciting the entire GTP, in an effort to show her how great you are. And what a 'catch' you are. Yet you're not ESCALATING, soooo she knows you're full of sh*t. So you talk about massage, squirting, chakras, and GTP theories such as "one day at a time" and "opening the heart" and meditation and "taking no crap" and everything you're getting from IG. But, IG stuff is meant to be LIVED, not talked about... collecting all of these beliefs to show women how 'knowing' you are, NO.

4. Instead of rambling, talk MUCH less about YOU, and focus on HER. Spend most of your time getting to know her on every level. What are her dreams, desires, fears, wants, hatreds, opinions... Be extremely curious about HER. And let her find out how "knowing" you are OVER TIME, slowly. Let her be pleasantly surprised as the relationship unfolds. Let her find out that you saved a drowning kitten and you can make women squirt LATER.

(from the ideagasm forums, for incredible advice visit www.ideagasms.net)